Good Morning all in computer land. I am a new romance writer, trying to explain the definition of LOVE and ROMANCE. There is not an easy answer, and it is different for everyone. Remember when you were a teenager and the crush on the guy in the hallway in high school. When ever you would look at him, you would get butterflies in your stomach and when he kissed you for the first time you couldn't breathe. After you go out for a while you get to know him, and some of his habits you really don't like when in time you don't feel the same anymore.
You grow up and finally meet the man of your life. You proclaim your love to each other and get married. You are high on life when finally the real world sets in. Bills have to be paid, having to deal with in-laws, & babies are in the picture. The butterflies are gone, and tiredness sets in. The days of love and romance are now intertwined with responsibility. Is it possible to have love and romance after years of marriage, kids and responsibility?
I guess that is why I am writing my story. We have love and romance mixed with aggravation, kids, jobs, in law, son & daughter in laws, and grandkids. I guess I want to show you the reason that later on in life if you are trying to keep the love burning it is a choice rather than just the looks with the butterflies.
OK so I just got back from a walk and lunch with my youngest daughter. She is 24 yrs old and not married yet. It seems to bother her, that her four siblings ahead of her are married. Yet she says that after seeing some of the ways her dad hurt me in our marriage she doesn't think she will ever get married. She says that she is not as strong and forgiving as I am.
So what is forgiveness? Our natural instinct is to protect when we have been injured. Forgiveness is a choice, a decision of the will with mercy and grace.
But I believe that once I had our first baby, our life doesn't belong to us anymore. Our children didn't ask to be born and brought in the world. They are totally dependent on us and the life we give them. So I do believe that we sacrifice for the sake of our kids. Now that the kids are grown, we could split up, but we managed to work on our relationship to keep our love alive no matter how much hurt we went through.
Well today has gotten away from me so I will try and go on with my story tomorrow.
Remember this: If we receive forgiveness from God, we need to give forgiveness to others who hurt us.
I am the Author
a wife, a mother, a grandmother, and still believe in the power of love &