Good Morning everyone, I want to thank you for reading my blog. Have you ever heard of Yahoo Answers? It is a sight to answer or ask questions for random people. I asked this sight ‘What advice would you give a person who is trying to get a book noticed’. I still have 3 days for people to answer but I am pretty discouraged by my answers. One person wrote to send flyers around and e-mail random people. I have done that when I first published my book and got negative responses. One person said to drop off copies at libraries, hospitals, and senior centers. I did that with my Alzheimer’s books with negative responses. The next person stated that marketing a self-published book is difficult. Many of the avenues open to traditionally published authors are not available. Chain bookstores won't host signings or carry copies (although they will order them for customers). Newspapers, magazines, TV, and radio don't want your press releases and won't do interviews. The library system won't accept free copies. Writing- or book-related conventions won’t let you set up a sales or autograph table, don’t want you on their author panels, and forbid you giving away promotional material.
So what is a self published author to do? I am afraid that this person is correct. With my Alzheimer’s book I sent it actually to celebrities with some responses for a good review but nothing after that. I
actually went to all the book stores here in Phoenix and got a lot of them to put one or two on their shelves but once they were sold, they did not replace them. I gave a lot away to the hospice homes and some nursing homes in the area but again no response.
So when I decided to write romance books I thought the responses would be different. Yet the book stores will not let me try and sell and sign a poster because my books are e-books which are taking business away from them. I have put flyers on cars, on houses, in hospitals and nursing homes (because I know the nurses who work there) yet no response. Ugh. I am just venting as I am trying to brain storm, how to get my books out into the world to read and enjoy. I am not a popular writer or do I really want to be, but I would love to sell my books with the knowledge that some people really enjoy them and tell their friends to buy them. Well I am done with my soap box, sorry and on with my story.
By the month of May I have been busy with school, work and practical experiences in the field. Kristina graduated college and received her Associates Degree which made me so proud. This girl was working full time and paying her way through school. She didn’t plan on stopping there, she wanted her bachelors.
Regina actually had a fifth grade graduation and played her cello for this event. I managed to enjoy these two events in between my busy schedule. We found a day to enjoy at Frontier City, our favorite amusement park and on Fourth of July spent the day at Aaron’s house with his parents and their pool. The food was great and Tom, Aaron’s dad shot fireworks from the back yard. The summer zoomed by with school, work, and trying to find time for summer birthdays. Kristina turned 22 yrs old, Erik turned
18 yrs old and I turned 44 yrs old. Summer passed and fall resumed with the kids going back to school and holidays coming around again. Thank heavens the kids were older. I only had to help Jessica and Regina get dressed up while the other three took care of themselves. Yes we still enjoyed getting dressed up in costumes and carving pumpkins. But my heart was not into it as much as usual, I had too much on my mind with school. I had finals to study for and this was important to me. Finally in
October I graduated Paramedic School. This was something to celebrate. My parents came down to see this graduation. You see for my mom this was a dream come true. When I was in high school, I did not get to walk and graduate with the rest of my class because I had to take summer school. I had trouble with the History class and I needed to pass this course to graduate high school. I know my parents were devastated that they never got to see their first born with a gown and hat. So my mom was thrilled to see me with a graduating class finally.
Finally I really enjoyed Thanksgiving with Aaron’s parents and some of their relatives and we played games and danced and I finally got to enjoy my family again.
During December I had my customers over for a great Christmas dinner, part of a way to say thank you for putting up with me, and for still being my customers. I was still their beautician and was not leaving that job yet. I still had to take the National Registry Boards before I could work.
Christmas was fun again while making cookies and decorating the tree and having our traditional Christmas Eve. Only thing now was Jimmy lost his job and had to go looking for a new one which he found in Chicago. I was determined not to move the kids again. Erik was going to graduate high school in June and I didn’t think it was fair for him to have to finish his last half of the year at another school. So after celebrating Jimmy’s birthday he left without us, and moved in with his mom and dad. Actually what we did was celebrate all January birthdays in 1999 at one time before he left. We did have a special birthday for Adias who turned three and Regina had a glow in the dark bowling for her 12th birthday.
I was missing Jimmy so I planned a vacation for the two of us. One of the girls I went to paramedic school with told me how cheap she got her trip to Paris. I never left the kids alone before to go anywhere let alone a different country. I made plans and Jimmy and I met in New York on a plane to Paris.
I don’t know how to explain how exciting this was to go to a city that you may have only dreamed about. I guess because my parents or Jimmy’s parents never talked about traveling, I never thought about going overseas. To see the Eiffel Tower in person was amazing. I had it all planned out.
I found this book on travel in Paris and mapped out practically every minute of our short vacation. We were only gone for 5 days, so it was a whirl wind of a vacation. But we visited The Palace of Versailles, with all the beautiful framed pictures on the walls and ceilings and the hall of mirrors. We saw the Grand Trianon Palace, the Arc de Triomphe that Napoleon had constructed to commemorate his victory at Battle of Austerlitz, the eternal flame and the tomb of the Unknown Soldier. We walked up the curling stairs of the Ace de Triomphe which if Jimmy knew how many stairs it was he would have never done it but the view from the top was amazing. We went to the Place de la Concorde and The Champs-Elysees, which is the famous boulevard in Paris. We went to the Montparnasse Tower, the only sky scraper they had at that time with 59 floors. We saw the Naval Museum and The National Museum of French Monuments. We rode a boat on the Seine River and watched all artists as they painted. We saw the Notre Dame Cathedral and across from that was the Deportation Memorial. This was sad because this is the place the Nazi killed French victims with a sign saying ‘Forgive but never forget’.We walked down the Latin Quarter, checked out The Cluny Museum with its medieval art, stained glass and tapestries. We
checked out the Sainte Chapelle a gothic church architecture built from 1242 to 1248 for St Louis lX and suppose to hold the Crown of Thorns. We saw the oldest clock which was built in 1334 and still keeps accurate time. We walked into the Conciergerie prison which was used to torture and execute failed assassins. Marie Antoinette was imprisoned there before the guillotine. One of my favorites was the Louvre, Europe’s oldest and biggest museum. We found the Mona Lisa under shatter proof glass. This place was amazing with all the pictures and sculptures and Egyptian master pieces. I can't even begin to describe how beautiful the building was before even going inside.
We saw so much history and beauty around us. I wish I could put all the pictures on here for you, but than you would probably get bored. It is not the same as seeing it with your own eyes. We tried so many
pastries and French food and of course we found a McDonalds. We had fun only I could tell that Jimmy’s heart was not really on this little vacation we were on. Maybe it was because we were apart or because of his job in Chicago. He did say that next time he would like to not run around so much, and sit back and enjoy the view, but I wanted to see everything with the fear I may never be back again.
We flew back on May 3, 1999, and went our separate ways with Jimmy going back to Chicago and me back to Oklahoma. Mean while there was a big tornado running through Oklahoma. This tornado became a F-5 touching down Chickasha, Midwest City, Moore, Oklahoma City, Dell City and Tinker Air Force Base. I was so scared for my children being alone during this storm mixed with guilt feelings. Jenny who was in the National Guard had to work in the area afterwards keeping looters away from the destroyed homes. Jimmy did come back home for Easter.
Our house was for sale and were still letting people look at it. When June came Jimmy brought his mother in town with him to see Erik graduate high school. It was so hard for me to see that I now had three children that were grown. I was not ready for the adult stage of children, I still loved all the kid things we grew up doing.
Meanwhile Jimmy found another job in Maryland, and we finallly sold our house getting ready to move again. Jessica and Regina played the last year at this soft ball league in Oklahoma, the girls I went to
paramedic school with had a good-bye party for me with dinner at a place called Show Guns. We went to Arcadia beach one last time and spent the 4th of July at Frontier City with friends. The girls at the beauty shop I worked at had a goodbye party for me with a giant cookie saying good bye on it. Tom and Willogene, Aaron’s parents had us over one last time for dinner and swimming in their pool. We had one last big party celebrating the birthdays for the summer with Kristina, Erik and mine. Even our Sunday school group had a goodbye party for us.
Then I got a distressing phone call. Jimmy’s mother fell at home, hit her head and died instantly. This was so hard on Jimmy. It was hard on my also, after all these people have always been here for me when ever I needed them. Jimmy's dad was devistated, and Joann, Jimmy's sister was a total wreck. Jimmy and I flew in quickly to see her before she was cremated. It was not an easy job to get the pictures together and the music for her memorial, yet her service was beautiful.
Finally it was time for us to pack and travel for our new adventure. This was a hard move because it
broke my heart to leave Kristina behind. Kristina only had a year left of school and we couldn’t pay for her college and she didn’t want to take classes over again and pay for them again so she decided to stay. This was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. She moved in with Aaron and the other 2 boys that lived in that apartment and I had to leave for the first time without all my babies.
OK this is enough for today. I hope I haven’t bored you with my little story. Keep smiling and remember somebody loves you so love them back with your whole heart.
I am the Author
a wife, a mother, a grandmother, and still believe in the power of love &