Good morning and welcome back to my romance blog. Just and FYI I do have my newest book Rosemary & Antonio for free on Amazon. I am trying to get my book out there for others to see and hopefully get some reviews on it. So if you are interested it would be greatly appreciated.
Marriage is one of the toughest jobs you will ever encounter. So many factors tribute to why marriages fail. Some it is money. We have had our share of bad times when I would be counting pennies for a gallon of milk. I remember one time when I use to keep any change we get back in this bottle and had to empty it so I could pay the electric bill. Some fail because of children. Our children take a lot of our time and we don’t give our spouses as much of our time as we use to. It is hard to find the time to be romantic, or just go out on a date. We forget that the kids didn’t ask to be born and now you have to change the way you live with a new role of responsibility. One of my hard parts with my husband was the fact he didn’t like to change dirty diapers and he would let the kids sit in them if he thought I would be home soon. Another reason for divorce is our differences with each other. My husband and I are very different people and one of the biggest things for me was the fact he was not as outgoing as he seemed when we first got together. Although he loved that I was so free spirited and alive this also drove him nuts especially in the morning when I am awake the fullest and he likes to wake up slow. Of course marriage infidelity is a big one. We did go through that one with Jimmy having an affair and I did my part by kissing another man. Even the struggles of taking care of someone who needs more help than you realized. Taking care of Grandpa Joe was a lot harder than we anticipated. We would argue because I thought that Jimmy was a lot harder on him than he should be at times.
With this said I guess I am saying love is a choice again. We chose to stick it out and be as one to get through all the trials that were handed to us. At the same time we were rewarded. I guess a reward is different for many people. Our reward was the love from our children, watching them grow, being involved in their lives. I also take it a reward as the opportunity to take care of Grandpa Joe to his final day.
I tried my hardest to make life at my father in laws house fun. June rolled around and Jessica was back with us so now I had two of my children living with us. This house only had three bedrooms and Gina’s was very small so in the formal dining room we moved the table out and made it a bedroom for Jessica. My girl friend from high school, Lynn came over a lot to see me also. We took walks together and she would sometimes just sit at the house with me as I watched Grandpa Joe.
Dad was now at the daycare five days a week for four hours a day. I was working two midnights a week. I had to make the summer count now that I was back in Chicago. So we took little trips, sometimes taking Grandpa Joe and sometimes in the four hours he would be at the day care. We took him to the Decatur Fair, and to picnics around at the park by the house. We took him to Adias soft ball games.
Sometimes just Jessica, Gina, Adias , Lynn and I would tour Chicago for a couple of hours while he was at the daycare. We would go one day to China Town, or one day to Old Town. We went to the zoo, and Navy Pier. We spent time at the beach and the museums. I was in heaven again, because I love Chicago and I felt like I was giving the couple of kids at home some great memories.
In July Erik and Betsy planned on getting married. Yep number two in my family. So of course Kristina came down for the wedding which gave me the perfect opportunity to give her a baby shower with all the relatives. Plus Grandpa Joe seemed to love to hold this tiny baby. I know you think I must sound funny, but since we have lived so far away for so long it just felt so good to have a reason to have all the great Aunts and cousins over. Grandpa Joe’s house was full of women again and I was having fun decorating, cooking and showing off my second grandchild.
Finally July 19, 2003 Erik and Betsy got married. The sad part of this wedding is the fact I could not bring Grandpa Joe with us. My sister in law came over to stay with him as we went to Decatur for a couple of days for this wonderful event. I know it was sad also for my son to have only one set of grandparents at his wedding, but he also understood why Grandpa Joe could not come. There is no way with his Alzheimer’s that we could take care of him in a hotel room and at a wedding. Plus the fact I was the
photographer which kept me very busy. The wedding was beautiful, and a lot of the relatives from Wisconsin showed up since it wasn’t too bad of a drive for them, including my Grandma Clara Ricci which is their Great Grandma. What an honor to have her show up for this festive occasion.
During this time dad has had some major changes. First he doesn’t stand still anymore. He has the
need to rock back and forth from one foot to the other. He seems to have the need to ask permission now to go anywhere around the house. He asks to go on car rides but shortly after we are gone he will say “To far, take me home.” So he is getting a little more impatient. He is constantly forgetting what he is
doing or where he is going. He will tell me he has to go to the bathroom but walk into his bedroom before going back to his chair. He does not want to bath anymore. So now I am taking on the job of bathing him, and he is real impatient about baths, yelling at me “hurry up” or “that’s enough.” He continues to walk from the front door down the drive way to the mail box and then back to the house. It is so hard to see him like this.
Well I hope you are all having a great day and will blog soon. Take care, LIVE, LOVE & LAUGH. You only get one chance.
I am the Author
a wife, a mother, a grandmother, and still believe in the power of love &