Good Sunday morning to you all. I have to admit I really don't like working on Sundays. I love to start my week by going to church. I work on a rotating schedule and I work three Sundays in a row and off six in a row. We have already been on a call this morning for a 93 yr old man who looks like he is having a stroke. The hard part about the senior population is I am not sure everyone takes them as serious. I mean, this man is not responding like he is suppose to says the nursing home. They say he does not have dementia, yet this gentleman can not answer my questions correctly. The hospital I am not sure takes it as serious as me, they take in the fact he is old and so he doesn't need to be as alert. I Usually bring up my grandma to them, and tell them that she is 100 yrs old and sharp as a whip. She still bakes cookies, rides her three wheel bike and takes walks so their theory is out of the water to me.
I have been talking about marriage, love and romance. I have been telling you about my married life and hopefully I am able to show a bigger picture about marriage. One don't even understand but I am enjoying. Since I am busy so far today I am going to talk about Marriage. What is the definition of MARRIAGE: A legal contract / partnership usually sexual and intimate which involves emotional, spiritual, & religious acts. What is Love: An emotion of strong affection, human kindness & compassion. What is a PROMISE: A commitment by someone.
What is ROMANCE: A pleasurable feeling of excitement & mystery associated with love. A deep emotional desire to connect. What is COMMITMENT: The act of pledging or engaging a promise.
What is COMPASSION: An emotional capacities of empathy and sympathy, regarded as a part of love. What is TRUST: Believing the integrity, strength, and confidence of someone.
Do these all look familiar? This is what we do when we get married.
Remember when you both looked at each other and agreed to get married with the idea it was forever? The old vows state: I take you to be my lawfully wedded husband & wife from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward till death do us part.
I am not judging anyone so please don't judge me. There are circumstances that this does not apply to but, in the long range of most of the divorces it is because the couple doesn't think they are compatible anymore. So the bomb drops and a request is made for a divorce which could be the first awareness that their is trouble. Maybe one of the spouses is having a affair. Kids are blindsided when they are told there is going to be a divorce.
Starting over after a divorce is very difficult, is it possible to love again? Do they have anymore self-worth? Will the children recover from their wounds from the parents splitting up? Can a broken child- parent bond be restored? How about re-marrying and dealing with step-families.?
As I went through my first nine years of marriage, I couldn't even think the word divorce. I hurt inside deeply but I also learned to forgive and forget. Now to forget doesn't mean that you will never think about the problems you lived, but they do not stick in your mind and ruin your everyday life by letting your emotions stay with the problem. You forgave and so you have started over with a clean slate.
I will get back tomorrow with more of my life hoping I can try to show the big picture about marriage and human weakness in all of us. You can still love your partner, be happy and keep your commitments.
I am the Author
a wife, a mother, a grandmother, and still believe in the power of love &